So you’ve found your life purpose – or it has found you. But now it all seems rather daunting and scary. It’s going to require (gasp!) change – and this makes a lot of people uncomfortable.
This is understandable. There is a primitive part of your brain that doesn’t like change. It reckons that you have survived for this long by doing things a certain way, and if you start doing them a different way, bad things might happen. But by being afraid of death, too many people get to the end and find that they have never lived.
But here is the truth: The only sure thing in life is change, whether you embrace it or not.
Just how secure is your security anyway? Jobs can be lost, houses can burn down, spouses can die, pensions can lose their value. The best security you can have is to be comfortable with insecurity. As the wise one-legged Welsh sailor, Tristan Jones, once wrote, “The only true riches in life are to be found between your ears”.
When I first did my obituary exercise and realised that I was not on track for the life I wanted, I was scared. I knew that it would require radical changes – giving up my job, my salary, and quite likely my marriage and hence my home. So I put my dream away, both literally and metaphorically, and tried to forget it. But it wouldn’t go away. Once I knew it, I couldn’t un-know it. And eventually I had to let go of everything I had ever held dear before I found the freedom to get myself back on track. I had to jump out of the plane and THEN start making my parachute.
Sure, it was scary. Terrifying, in fact. Rowing an ocean pales into insignificance by comparison. But I have never regretted it for a minute. Well, maybe a few minutes here and there, early on, but increasingly I got comfortable with my new lifestyle. What had once seemed like insecurity soon felt like freedom.
And while we’re on the subject, here are some more inspiring quotes:
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” ~ Mark Twain
“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.” ~ Helen Keller
“A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.” ~ John A. Shedd
“Nobody ever died wishing they’d spent more time in the office” ~ Anon
And to sum up:
– The only sure thing in life is change, whether you embrace it or not.
– “The only true riches in life are to be found between your ears”. (Tristan Jones)
– Sometimes you have to jump out of the plane and THEN start making your parachute.
– What initially seems like insecurity soon feels like freedom.